I know of a couple that is probably headed for a breakdown somewhere down the road in their marriage.
They live in the same household but they never really can act on a deep intimate emotional level. They share superficial interests, but lack real communication.
Each one is running on automatic. Each one lives their life according to preset patterns and that’s how they conduct their marriage. Their marriage is predictable and boring. When the couple comes home from work the husband immediately gets on the computer to play his favorite video game. The wife turns on the television and neither one initiates anything new.
And likewise they try to resolve their conflicts using prerecorded patterns that each partner is unaware of. And because each one of them is oblivious to his or her own baggage, they are destined to carry it. Until or unless they wake up.
Theirs is what I call the unconscious marriage.
What I would like to accomplish by talking to those who read this is to help married couples experience their relationship consciously. This requires introspection on the part of each partner.
It’s about self awareness. Please let me know your thoughts.
–By Lee Hefner