Some of the most typical symptoms of a crisis include dissatisfaction with the job, anxiety over signs of aging (lines around the eyes, graying hair, etc.) and unhappiness with the marriage.
If this is happening to you, how are you handling it? Are you wondering if you can save your marriage?
With the words “I don’t love you anymore,” a marital crisis can split a marriage wide open, along with the heart of the mate who may not have suspected that anything was wrong.
In the midst of profound confusion, disbelief, and shock, spouses in this situation typically search for marriage guidance. You may find that endless questions haunt you during every waking hour. What should you do next? What would be helpful?
Would marriage counseling help? What would make things worse? Is there a chance that your spouse may have a change of heart?
No one can guarantee that you’ll be able to win back your wife or husband. After all, no one, yourself included, can predict the intentions, thoughts or emotions of your spouse. But you’ll significantly increase the odds in your favor if you know what other individuals in an unhappy marriage have done to successfully turn the marriage around. It just makes good sense to have a well-thought-out game plan in place instead of panicking as you spin your wheels.
To stop divorce resulting from your spouse’s middle life crisis, you’ll want to:
• Survive the current crisis and buy time,
• Stop any behaviors that can drive your partner away,
• Decide what it is that you really want with and for your spouse,
• Lay the groundwork with your spouse so that you can connect better, and
• Develop skills that will help you deepen the intimacy in your marriage.
Each of these topics is worthy of an article by itself. I’ll be addressing them in future posts.
For now, just understand that few things are written in stone. If your spouse has said “I don’t love you anymore,” it doesn’t necessarily mean the end of your marriage.
But it is a warning shot for you to take proactive steps.
–By Lee Hefner